Reflections of a rural girl

A Facebook Philosopher wrote " Closure is a scam, don't seek it, don't call, don't text, just move on. You'll heal!"  Some people seem to master the skill of just fading away from a relationship or fustrating you till either you or the relationship breaks. Leaving you wondering what the hell happened. Men are far better at this than women, it is no surprise that a man wrote that Facebook post. Women usually want answers, especially if they cared about someone. This is also because women are much better at communicating their emotions. Women want to deliberate, discuss, confront, cry, shout, do whatever it takes until they know for sure that things will never work out.  Unfortunately this doesn't always happen, when one person decides to pull the plug with no explanation, the other partner is left wondering what happened. It is even more heartbreaking when one  partner tries  to reach out and they are met with coldness and a brick wall, leaving them hurt, c...

As a woman of conservative nature, who puts high value on herself and body, I find breakups to evoke feelings of disgust and somewhat shame especially if the relationship was sexual.  Culturally/ socially even religiously, women are taught that their bodies are sacred and should only be shared with their husbands in marriage. Though this is becoming an extremely difficult value to uphold, (staying a virgin till marriage), a conservative woman still wants to share their body with the "right" person. As people and the world evolves, men and women to some extent are finding it difficult to commit to one person. Well I believe its due to women becoming more liberal with their sexuality and improved financial statutes. Unlike in days when a woman would stay, in an abusive marriage, for financial security, most women work and don't need men in that sense. Even with this shift, there are still women who place high values on their bodies (cake). The difficult part now comes ...